7 Mistakes Parents Make
Worrying About Your Child Too Much
Many parents worry about their children --Whether they are developing normally, how they perform, if they cry too much, are they going to be able to survive in school and life. Children are hardier than we think, of course, this doesn't mean that we shouldn't be taking care of our children. It is natural for parents to be concerned about their children. However, constant worry can be very negative, it just stresses you out without solving any problems. Children can easily sense that you are worried. We have to have faith to raise children.
Comparing Your Child to Others
Children sometimes are advanced in some areas of development, average for most milestones and delayed with others. Just keep in mind that your child is unique, with different talents and challenges. Every child learns to crawl, walk, talk and develop within their own timetable. My own children developed very differently but both grew up to be successful and happy adults.
Pushing Your Child into Activities They Don't Want To Do
Pressuring your child into activities can be counter productive. Keep in mind whether your child has a talent for the activity, or if it's an activity that all children should eventually do (driving, swimming, etc...) Activities and classes that are too advanced are not enjoyable for anyone.
Living Your Life Through Your Child
The main thing I learned as a mother is that my child is a totally different person than me! Celebrate and except your child as a unique individual. Everyone has their own purpose and calling in life.
Not letting Your Child Work Out His or Her Own Problems
If there is not bullying involved, let your children work out their problems with their peers. You can listen to your child and suggest some ideas to help work out the relationship. Liearning coping skills are a plus in your child's life.
Not Teaching Your Child Manners
Adults sometimes cringe being seated next to, behind or in front of children in an airplane. I know people who refuse to eat at a restaurant where there are children. Consider your child's age when you take them in public. Teach them manners and give your children your undivided attention to help them adjust while in public places. Unruly and rude behavior is not acceptable at home or in public. Don't let your child kick the seat in front of them, run around screaming or interrupting conversations of others. Children behave wonderfully in public when parents take proper care of them and their needs.
Not Listening to Your Child or Turn Off Your Phone, Computer and Television and Listen.
Children need to have your total attention when talking to you. I know it is tempting to text while your child is talking, but put aside your phone and really give your child eye contact and your undivided attention. Acknowledge your child when you pick them up from school or from daycare, turn off your phone and show them how much you care. Give your children the gift of your undivided attention.
posted at 4:45 p.m. on November 12, 2012
Yes! Just remain in mind that your child is matchless, with different talents and challenges. Each child learns to crawl, walk, talk and build up within their own schedule.
posted at 2:40 p.m. on November 19, 2012
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posted at 4:27 p.m. on January 22, 2013
yours is a very educative site. i'm in d process of setting up a playgroup for kids age 4 months to 21/2 years. i will really appreciate a daily lesson plan suggestion from you. Thanks. =============================================================================================================================== There is a link on the front page for lessons and newsletters, just click on archive or go to this link http://www.montessorimom.com/thank-you-subscribing/ Babies and toddlers need lots of tactile learning experiences. Observe your children and provide for their needs and desires. You are doing a wonderful thing!
posted at 9:35 p.m. on March 17, 2013
thank,s for your educative site.i have 15month old daughter and i want to use montessori method in her daily life... what should i do for that ....i will be really thanksful to u if i got any suddestion from u..... =============================================================================================================================================== Start with developmental activities and toys. Encourage your child to develop large and small muscles. Take a walk everyday and do practical life activities, such as your daughter feeding herself, playing with cups in the bath and holding and throwing a big ball. Observe your child and provide activities she will enjoy. Bless you both! MM
posted at 1:32 a.m. on April 19, 2013
I am pretty sure that children would be more interested to read this article more than their parents. Comparing children to others and Living one’s life through their children are the most common issues prevalent in every family. Awaiting more such posts.
posted at 9:31 p.m. on April 26, 2013
Comparing children is a mistake my own parents made and one theirs made, I am thankful to have not copied their mistakes but learned from them knowing it's the wrong thing to do and assists children to compete and argue with each other rather than get along as was the case with my brother and I, now he's doing it to his own children and when he praised one while putting the other one down I was quick to tell the one he praised that she's not better than her sister, she's just 2 yrs ahead being 2 yrs older. Even if my child is an only child I'd not raise him that way.
posted at 5:50 a.m. on April 27, 2013
Great list of 7 mistakes we as parents make. My 3 year old son was just uncontrollable and wont listen to anybody but after realizing our parenting mistakes we stopped pushing him into activities he did not want to do. I am sure he is getting better now.
posted at 7:12 a.m. on October 3, 2013
It's very challenging for us parents sometimes to go on with our kids' tantrums. I just wish all parents could really understand their kids most especially on dealing with personal problems.
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