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7 Mistakes Parents Make

Worrying About Your Child Too Much

Many parents worry about their children --Whether they are developing normally, how they perform, if they cry too much, are they going to be able to survive in school and life. Children are hardier than we think, of course, this doesn't mean that we shouldn't be taking care of our children. It is natural for  parents to be concerned about their children. However, constant worry can be very negative, it just stresses you out without solving any problems. Children can easily sense that you are worried. We have to have faith to raise children.

Comparing Your Child to Others

Children sometimes are advanced in some areas of development, average for most milestones and delayed with others. Just keep in mind that your child is unique, with different talents and challenges. Every child learns to crawl,  walk, talk and develop within their own timetable. My own children developed very differently but both grew up to be successful and happy adults. 

Pushing Your Child into Activities They Don't Want To Do

Pressuring your child into activities can be counter productive. Keep in mind whether your child has a talent for the activity, or if it's an activity that all children should eventually do (driving, swimming, etc...)  Activities and classes that are too advanced are not enjoyable for anyone.

Living Your Life Through Your Child

The main thing I learned as a mother is that my child is a totally different person than me!  Celebrate and except your child as a unique individual. Everyone has their own purpose and calling in life.

Not letting Your Child Work Out His or Her Own Problems

If there is not bullying involved, let your children work out their problems with their peers. You can listen to your child and suggest some ideas to help work out the relationship. Liearning coping skills are a plus in your child's life.

Not Teaching Your Child Manners

Adults sometimes cringe being seated next to, behind or in front of children in an airplane. I know people who refuse to eat at a restaurant where there are children. Consider your child's age when you take them in public.  Teach them manners and give your children your undivided attention to help them adjust while in public places.  Unruly and rude behavior is not acceptable at home or in public.  Don't let your child kick the seat in front of them, run around screaming or interrupting conversations of others.  Children behave wonderfully in public when parents take proper care of them and their needs.

Not  Listening to  Your Child or Turn Off Your Phone, Computer and Television and Listen.

Children need to have your total attention when talking to you.  I know it is tempting to text while your child is talking, but put aside  your phone and really give your child eye contact and your undivided attention. Acknowledge your child when you pick them up from school or from daycare, turn off your phone and show them how much you care. Give your children the gift of your undivided attention. 

 

Comments

Caroline Demettry

posted at 2:40 p.m. on November 19, 2012

Would like to have more information about Montessori.

anju

posted at 9:35 p.m. on March 17, 2013

thank,s for your educative site.i have 15month old daughter and i want to use montessori method in her daily life... what should i do for that ....i will be really thanksful to u if i got any suddestion from u..... =============================================================================================================================================== Start with developmental activities and toys. Encourage your child to develop large and small muscles. Take a walk everyday and do practical life activities, such as your daughter feeding herself, playing with cups in the bath and holding and throwing a big ball. Observe your child and provide activities she will enjoy. Bless you both! MM

Suzanne

posted at 9:31 p.m. on April 26, 2013

Comparing children is a mistake my own parents made and one theirs made, I am thankful to have not copied their mistakes but learned from them knowing it's the wrong thing to do and assists children to compete and argue with each other rather than get along as was the case with my brother and I, now he's doing it to his own children and when he praised one while putting the other one down I was quick to tell the one he praised that she's not better than her sister, she's just 2 yrs ahead being 2 yrs older. Even if my child is an only child I'd not raise him that way.

Here

posted at 5:50 a.m. on April 27, 2013

Great list of 7 mistakes we as parents make. My 3 year old son was just uncontrollable and wont listen to anybody but after realizing our parenting mistakes we stopped pushing him into activities he did not want to do. I am sure he is getting better now.

luka larrs

posted at 4:09 p.m. on February 15, 2014

Hello..please help me,class does not listen to me,i try everything and nothing..i try to stimulate my class with different activities,such as music discovery and matching game,this is the only time they play.the othe teachers critizie me and laugh,how do you think i feel.PLEASE ADVICE....thank you Luka----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------First, gradually introduce manners and rules of the classroom. It is often called "grace and courtesy." This helps students normalize to the classroom routine. It is best to have play areas where children play independently while you help children normalize. It can take up to 2 months for students to thrive in a new environment. When children normalize they will be much more settled and peaceful and ready for more academic work. Also, keep to a schedule for activities. Children love routines Finally, ignore anything negative in your environment. You are there to make a difference for the children and don't let anyone take that gift away from you. I have faith that you will be able to do this! My Best, MM

GIDEON

posted at 2:36 p.m. on July 23, 2014

I am trying to introduce Montessori method of teaching in my school and therefore want to know, how many number rods,pink towers, brown stairs, spindle boxes etc should a class of 25 have. Thank you ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------We had one of each piece of equipment. MM

ELI

posted at 3:03 p.m. on September 17, 2014

I soon will be a stay at home mom by choice to my 14 month old daughter. She is in a great Montessori school at this time. Now I am freaking out hoping I am not taking away valuable learning from her by staying at home with her. So I would like to continue on the Montessori way at home. Can you please suggest where I start with what activities I should start with or "toys" for lack of better word? ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------I think you will do a great job staying home with your daughter. It's the best environment for her with you by her side. I would do Montessori practical life activities with her. Developmental toys that promote her skills and creativity are the best. I would include large wooden puzzles with knobs, blocks, books, balls, and what other items she would like. Include music and art for her level. Some of the best toys are household items, such as empty cardboard boxes, pots with lids, wooden or plastic bowls that nest. Most of all, observe your daughter and plan her activities around her talents and gifts. Children are the best source for helping us determine their activities. Most of all, have fun! MM

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